So, what motivates you? Really, really think about it. Why do you do the things you do? Anything - EVERYTHING you do is motivated by something, isn't it? I'm motivated by happiness. I would like to tell you that I want to make other people happy. And, I do. But, I think what motivates me even more than that is how *I* feel when I make other people happy. I really don't like that about myself. I would typically say that I'm not a selfish person. I like to do things for other people (family, friends, strangers). So, why do I feel bad about getting some sort of enjoyment out of it? I'll tell you why. Because I don't know if I would do it if I didn't get enjoyment out of it. But, it's kind of like "what came first, the chicken or the egg?". Is there a definitive answer to my dilemma? Would I do things for others if I didn't get something in return? How could I ever not get something in return when helping others makes me happy?
Example : I truly dislike being cold and I've never been an "outdoorsy" type person. But, I learned how to ski because my husband loves to ski. He was practically born skiing (now that's a vision I'd rather not have). Did I do it because he wanted me to go skiing with him? No, he would have been fine going alone or with his friends. I did it because I didn't want to be left alone when he went skiing. Oh and I was miserable the first few years. Not miserable as in a bad skier, miserable as in I made everyone else miserable because I disliked it so much. A couple beautiful trips out west kind of changed my perspective. As long as I looked good on the slopes and in the apres ski bar - I was golden! Now, as a mom of two children, I knew what was coming. He was going to want to teach them to ski. Ugh, more pressure! So, once they were around 4 or 5, we took them skiing. Of course, they love it. And, you know what? I've never loved skiing more. Which is why we've been so brokenhearted this year. No snow = no family ski trip. We're still hopeful but, it's not looking promising. So - a snow bunny I've become. But, I still did it for me even though the whole family really benefits.
So, what motivates you?
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
A friend suggested that I should become a Blogger. I have never done this before so, bear with me. I may or may not be interesting and/or entertaining but I will always be honest about myself and my family. We are beautifully imperfect and stunningly boring. We are a "nuclear family" which makes us normal and different all at the same time. I never imagined such love and contentment in my life. Oh, don't get me wrong, I have the usual irritations and "pull out my hair" moments. But, I wouldn't change a thing.
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